I believe that the amount someone grieves is directly proportional to the type of relationship the person had towards the deceased. Seems like a basic concept, yet, it is filled with a load of emotional baggage that may be at times hard to gauge and even harder to understand. Often, the person grieving is drowned by a sea of guilt and hopelessness. This is one way our mind deals with coping through loss. This happens because our mind wants to get back to a state of "normalcy" as quickly and efficiently as possible and uses control as its vehicle. When something bad happens, such as dealing with the loss of a loved one, the first thing the mind seeks to find is some form of control. This is usually done through seeking some form of participation in order to fix the situation. But how can someone "fix the situation" when the person is dead?